Announcing your Engagement
So Much Fun! He has just asked and you have said “YES”. You are so excited and cannot wait to get on the horn and start calling all of your friends and family. Stop for a second and breathe. This could be your first experience in how sensitive your friends and family can be. Believe it or not, there is a standard method for the phone calls you are about to make and a pecking order for how people expect to be notified. Get ready, you may spend the next 3-4 days on the phone telling and retelling your story.
Start by calling both of your parents. Both sets of parents should be informed before you move on to friends. Depending on your relationships with extended family, you should follow both sets of parents with Grandparents and Aunts and Uncles as desired. Again, wait to move on to grandparents until you have talked to both sets of parents. And notify grandparents before you move on to friends. You will both want to say a few words to all family members so make these calls one at a time if you can.
It is now time to start phoning your friends. Divide and conquer, you can call your friends and he his. Start with your best friends and move on from friend to friend. Don’t get frustrated, people are not avoiding you, it just feels that way. You are so anxious to tell everyone, it can sometimes feels as like no one is home.
Customarily, engagement announcements are printed in the local hometown paper of both the Bride and the Groom. Depending on family ties, the engagement may also be announced in the local paper of either or both sets of grandparents. Writing announcements can be tricky, but here are some guidelines for writing engagement announcements dependent on individual family situations.
The Bride's Family
Mr. and Mrs. Simon Smith announce the engagement of their daughter, Lori Ann Smith to Anthony Michael Cooper, son of Anthony and Jane Cooper of Lynchburg, Virginia. Ms. Smith graduated summa cum laude from University College, and is a real estate agent with Housing Realty in Richmond . Mr. Cooper graduated from Lynchburg University and is a Research Data Coordinator with General Hospital, Lynchburg. A June wedding is planned.
Ms. Alice Smith announces the engagement of her daughter, Lori Ann Smith to Michael Anthony Cooper, the son of Anthony and Jane Cooper of Lynchburg….(Follow the rest of the wording above. You may choose to include "Ms. Smith is also the daughter of Casey Smith of Newport Village" as the closing line, but this is not mandatory.)
Ms. Alice Smith announces the engagement of her daughter, Lori Ann to Michael Anthony Cooper. Ms. Smith, also the daughter of the late Simon Smith, graduated from University College and is a real estate agent with Housing Realty. Mr. Cooper, the son of Anthony and Jane Cooper, graduated from Lynchburg University and is a Research Data Coordinator with General Hospital in Lynchburg.
Ms. Alice Johnson and Mr. Richard Johnson announce the engagement of Ms. Johnson's daughter . . .
Mr. Simon Smith, of Richmond, and Ms. Alice Richardson, of Gettysburg, announce the engagement of their daughter, Lori Ann . . .
Announced by the Bride and Groom
Lori Ann Carroll, a graduate of University College, is to be married to Anthony Michael Cooper, a graduate of Lynchburg University. Ms. Smith, the daughter of the late Simon and Alice Smith, is a real estate agent with Housing Realty. Mr. Cooper is a Research Data Coordinator with General Hospital, Lynchburg.